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Entitled Millennials
I saw another article about an older person talking about Millennials and the word ‘entitled’ came up a few times in association with Millennial. It got me thinking… It seems to be a common combination these days – Millennials and entitlement. Ask someone what they think of Millennials, and they may mention words and phrases like, “young”, “snowflake”, “easily offended”, “triggered”, “lazy”, “entitled”, “addicted to their phones”, “obsessed with technology and/or social media”.

I’ve been called a Millennial many times, so like any Millennial, I went to Google in order to find out what a Millennial is, “According to Iconoclast, a consumer research firm, the first Millennials were born in 1978. Newsweek magazine reported that the Millennial generation was born between 1977 and 1994. In separate articles, the New York Times pegged the Millennials at 1976-1990 and 1978-1998. A Time magazine article placed the Millennials at 1980-2000.” (whatis.com). Pew Research Center reports the Millennial generation as, “those born after 1980 and the first generation to come of age in the new millennium”. I also read on whatis.com that, Neil Howe and William Strauss, authors of the 1991 book Generations: The History of America’s Future, 1584 to 2069, are often credited with coining the term ‘Millennials’ and their definition is, “consisting of individuals born between 1982 and 2004” (whatis.com). Clearly there are some discrepancies in defining the term. For the sake of ease, let’s just go with Time Magazine’s definition of Millennials, “people born between the years 1980 and 2000”.

Based on Time’s definition, a Millennial can be between the age of 17 and 37. I was surprised to read that, mostly because I don’t know too many 30-something year-olds openly identifying themselves as a Millennial. Why is this? Because Millennials seem to be entitled, little shits, and who wants to be in the same category as an entitled, little shit? So of course anyone born in the 70’s or 80’s is going to avoid the tag, Millennial.

I believe the word ‘Millennial’ is used as a ‘buzzword’ – which by my definition, is something that generates attention that doesn’t really serve a useful purpose or have any clear and specific meaning to it. We already read several, similar meanings to the word; but I think this buzzword is often used to talk down on and blame a group of young people for problems occurring in the society. And why do people talk about ‘Millennials’? Because it generates attention. It’s a trending topic and a popular keyword search – just like america’s favorite/least favorite name, ‘Kardashian’. ‘

The word, ‘Millennial’ is a buzzword. It’s an easy way to cast blame upon a large group of individuals and rag on a bunch of young people in order to gain attention as a writer, or speaker. I don’t think it’s creative or groundbreaking writing; to me, it’s a cheap and repetitive trick. It’s like when websites promote click-bait lists (Example: 10 Unbelievable Secrets That You Never Knew About… Number 4 Will Shock You!) in a slideshow format. Websites do this to generate clicks and gain your attention, and each new slide you visit represents a new page visit (more page visits equals more potential ad revenue). So if a person is working at cutthroat publication company and his or her job is to generate views, he or she is probably going to include a few buzzwords, some cheap tactics and click-bait headlines to grab your attention. I believe this obsession about ‘Millennials’ is no different.

Entitled Millennials

The world owes us nothing.

Please don’t get me wrong, there are PLENTY of “easily offended”, “triggered”, “lazy”, “entitled”, “addicted to their phones” and “obsessed with technology”, Millennials. Of course, and I too get annoyed by them. But I kindly invite you to look around. It’s not just Millennials that are like this. There are people like this, of all ages. I have met plenty of Baby-Boomers and Generation X’ers who match all those adjectives. I believe blaming Millennials for a large amount of problems in society is just the popular thing to do right now. I’m sure when I’m 40-plus years old, I’ll talk about how much Generation Z is entitled and ruining what Millennials built. I think blaming the generations after us is just the popular thing to do.

I’ll end it with this – it’s not inherently Millennials that are entitled, it’s entitled-assholes who are entitled. There are entitled Baby-Boomers, Generation X’ers and Millennials. It’s almost inherently apart of our nature to get upset with younger generations, “The children now love luxury; they have bad manners, contempt for authority; they show disrespect for elders and love chatter in place of exercise. Children are now tyrants, not the servants of their households. They no longer rise when elders enter the room. They contradict their parents, chatter before company, gobble up dainties at the table, cross their legs, and tyrannize their teachers.” – Attributed to Socrates by Plato (469–399 B.C.).

Ryne Harshman

Editor in Chief | President | Co-Founder

 

It Starts with ‘Me’ – A Different Perspective On Motivation, Happiness and Living a Fulfilling Life

It Starts with Me

Why do you do the things that you do? Think deeply about this… Is it to impress someone else? Is it to attempt to be better than someone else? Is it to get revenge and prove people wrong? Is it anything other than an intrinsic, self-induced purpose? Because if it is, you should stop and re-evaluate your why… Life is too short to seek validation from someone else and hand them the keys to your happiness.

Without an intrinsic ‘why’, your motivation will not last. It’s simply not sustainable to live seeking validation from others. It’s not enough to fuel your pursuit with negative energy, you will run out of fuel. Happiness is a default state in which we live in. It’s not achieved by buying things. Happiness doesn’t come from other people; it’s uncovered within you. Your happiness is a direct result of your mind. You have everything within you, to be happy. When you’re happy, you are clean. The outside factors like success, love, experiences, achievements and friendship; they are the wax that improves the shine of your happiness.

But your pursuit should not be one fueled by the perceived views of others. When you focus your efforts on becoming the person you want to become, others will flock.

Is it bad to put yourself first? Do you want to build yourself up, establish yourself, gain the knowledge to be a better man/woman, father/mother, son/daughter, family member, teammate, student, and overall human? Before you can help other people, you must first help yourself. When you stop expecting other people to make you happy, you can concentrate on making yourself a better and more positive person. But your pursuit should not be one fueled by the perceived views of others. When you focus your efforts on becoming the person you want to become, others will flock. People will enjoy being around a positive and happy person. You begin to make other people’s lives better, when you make your life better.

Let’s picture this situation like building a house. We may have dreams of creating and building a house – a huge, extravagant home with multiple stories. The dream house represents a desirable relationship and each story represents a person, perhaps a friend, a significant other or your child. You and your happiness are represented by the home’s foundation. No matter how much you try to put together this beautiful house, if the foundation isn’t sturdy and well put together, the home will be destroyed. So no matter how much you try to make other people happy and better their lives; if you don’t put the work in to better yourself and be happy, it will not work.

I think one of the greatest things in life is making other people’s lives better. One way we can do this is by teaching people. But how do we become a teacher? We must first stop giving and start listening, learning and becoming some type of expert in the field that we want to teach. We have to invest in ourselves first. Once we become an expert and invest in ourselves, we can then invest in others. We can help others and improve their lives, far better than we could before we invested in ourselves. The best teachers are the ones who are happy, who have passion and who truly care about the outcome, but don’t expect anything in return. If you are happy and positive, you will be a better teacher and you will be able to give so much more.

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Uncover happiness and joy in any situation life presents.

An important factor to remember is not forgetting about the journey. Embrace your learning and share your gift with others. Don’t become selfish and unwilling to give back to others during your self-investment. You are always capable of giving back adding value to other’s lives and doing the right thing during the journey. Giving back doesn’t have to come down to monetary contribution either. Giving people your time and heart are often times worth more than any check. Don’t find the time to invest, make time. Make time to invest in yourself and then make the time to invest in others. And instead of helping others with the idea of receiving praise or honor, simply do it because it’s the right thing to do. Don’t expect anything in-return and don’t feel the need to brag. If you have a heart of gold, you don’t have to tell people, they’ll know it because it will shine bright.

A fulfilling life means different things to different people. Some people want it all: the money, the power, the respect, the fame and the glory. But what you will often times see is that these people are constantly chasing happiness through these things. They never actually feel happy inside. Yet sometimes we see people who live a simple life, and spread positivity, and they are truly happy. It’s about finding your purpose and doing what it is you want to do. If your goal is to become a billionaire, do it because you want to do it. Don’t do it for any other reason. If your goal is to live off the land and not worry about money, go for it. I just ask that whatever it is you decide to do with your life, you do something that uncovers your happiness, and you give back; I believe this is the secret to staying motivated and living a happy and fulfilling life.

I say to myself nearly every day, “It starts with me. I have the power to make my life everything I wish it to be. I understand life has many ups and downs. I understand that being happy all the time is naïve and unrealistic. But I do know happiness is within me. I understand that without an intrinsic, self-induced purpose, I will not stay motivated. I know in order to help others and serve my purpose in life, I have to help myself first. But I will always help and give back along the way, because I will always move forward.”

I hope I could help at least one other person who read this.

Ryne Harshman

Editor in Chief | President | Co-Founder